Next Steps Along The Sojourners’ Path, Part 1


As I watch events continue to play out as I predicted several years ago, I thought now would be a good time to discuss some next steps for those of us who are Sojourners. We’ve already got the basics covered:
(1) We’ve left Blackistan to reside in much safer and supportive areas.

(2) We work toward actively protecting our physical and mental health with consciously-chosen healthier diets, regular exercise, and plenty of self-pampering.
(3) We’ve cleansed our social circles of male-identified women, damaged-beyond-repair individuals of either gender, along with anybody else who is unable or unwilling to reciprocate our fellowship and support.

(4) We’re forming as many mutually supportive relationships (of all kinds, romantic, friendship, religious fellowship, and so on) and networks as possible. Our relationships and interactions are based on reciprocity, not race or color. We support those people who support us. We don’t support people who don’t support us. We especially don’t support people who hate us.
We naturally gravitate toward reciprocating relationships, and away from one-sided relationships. We didn’t need a sermon to explain to us why we should not financially support Precious, Red Tails, D’Jango Unchained, The Butler, Tyler Perry flicks, etc. Because we highly value ourselves, we are automatically repulsed at the notion of giving money to people who hate us.

(5) We work toward developing additional, location-independent income streams for ourselves.
What next? Here are a few suggestions:

Become Even More Proactive About Preserving Your Health and Food Security

It’s never a good time to be sick. In this era of economic collapse, it’s an especially bad time to be sick. It’s an especially bad time to be an AA woman who treats hypertension or early onset diabetes as some sort of rite of passage. There will be more news stories like this one from the past couple of months: Cries of Betrayal as Detroit Plans to Cut Pensions.


This news story features something we’ll see more of as each day passes: A 73 year old African-American (AA) lady who is caring for a more or less invalid BM husband who needs dialysis 3x per week. Multiply that type of set-up (1 or more adults depending on ONE elderly AA woman who's carrying their burdens for them) by literally millions of AA women. It reminds me of a recent comment to this post at another blog by a commenter named Oshun (partial quote from comment #9):

. . . It seems like all the people I used to know even people in my family are on the razor’s edge. (Knock hard on wood) Underemployed or unemployed + DBR BM and BW who keep having babies like it is 1945 and we are going through an economic boom = disaster.
 
I have mule aunts who work full time and have nothing to show for it. They keep coming around asking for financial help and food because they are supporting DBR family who do nothing, but leech and keep up drama and discord and have babies. These women are too young for assistance late 40s- 50s and make too much money according to the poverty scale, but they are drowning.
 
They have taken in a lot of DBRs (sons usually) and their baby mamas, and toddlers and newborns. And the suffering is palatable.
 
I have one aunt who is supporting her son, his wife, and their two children. Sometimes their utilities are on and sometimes not. Sometimes the rent gets paid and sometimes it is 4 months behind.
 
I am not an advocate for aid, but they need to apply for it. And they won’t. They won’t even try to get food stamps, which is the least they could do, and then buy food for the whole house. They also will not clean or cook and then will cuss her out. So she comes over here hunting for food.
 
Then the people on her job are trying to force her out because they want to use temp workers not people they have to pay benefits too. If she loses her job she is up crap creek and so are they.
 
My next door 40 something neighbor is one of the sorriest things I have ever seen. He has moved in with his grandmother and is leeching off of her because I guess it is so hard out there that baby mamas and desperate women are putting these men out. I am noticing a phenomenon where DBRs are just piling up on older female family members like never before. . . .

 

The Mammy Mules whose lives are mostly filled with non-reciprocating parasites are being wiped out as we speak. The DBRs in their lives are piling up on them; and now they’ve got multiple adult parasites sleeping on their couches. As the Mammy Mules continue drowning, they’re going to try to grab hold of any nearby functional Black person. Get clear of the Mammy Mules before they drag you down with them.
Become Even More Proactive About Preserving Your Health
For those who are healthy, work to prevent unnecessary illness by making nutritional and fitness changes whose positive benefits are supported by peer-reviewed medical research.

For those who are dealing with a health challenge, use conventional medical treatments as the foundation of what one is doing while exploring alternative practices that might be helpful.
Let me emphasize this point. I repeat: Any nutritional, fitness-related, etc. regimen should be an adjunct to, NOT a replacement for, conventional medical treatments. There are a lot of snake oil peddlers who slap the words “natural,” “holistic,” “vegetarian,” “herbal,” “macrobiotic,” etc. onto their products in order to make sales.

There are also a lot of people who have semi-food cults operating.

None of this is what I'm talking about.

A now-deceased colleague initially played the herbal, “holistic,” and prayer game instead of surgery and other conventional treatments for her breast cancer. As I mentioned years ago in an earlier post, SHE IS DEAD because of this. She died after several years of suffering.

She suffered and died after the cancer spread. She allowed the cancer to spread by her initial refusal to accept conventional medical treatments such as chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery. She spent many months after diagnosis doing the “holistic,” “natural,” “prayer-based,” etc. practices instead of conventional treatments.

She gambled. She lost. She paid with intense physical suffering. She paid with her life. I would urge folks not to make the same mistake. Don't reject the blessings that God has created by allowing medical and scientific knowledge to advance.
From what I've read, traditional Eastern forms of medicine deal with the body's physical environment. With cultivating the patient's internal physical environment in a way that prevents disease processes from taking root and growing in that “soil.” This only makes sense in the context of before a medical crisis (such as cancer, etc.) has developed.

Conventional, Western medicine deals with health issues at the point of crisis. After a condition has developed. Conventional, Western medicine is superior for treating acute, medical crises.

The M.D./Ph.D. who wrote the book Anti-Cancer: A New Way of Life (who is also a cancer survivor himself, by the way) talked about the peer-reviewed medical research indicating that it takes a matter of years for a person's body to create a cancerous tumor. It's estimated that it takes 5-40 years for a cancer cell to become a cancer tumor.
There are internal processes that support this growth (such as creation of blood vessels to divert nutrients to the developing cancer tumor, etc.).

What this author is talking about is basically keeping one's internal soil clean of cancer “weeds” by making nutritional and other changes that interrupt the tumor-generating process. There are certain compounds within various foods that hinder a cancer cell's ability to “hijack” and grow new blood vessels for its own use.

The point of all of the prevention methods that are supported by peer-reviewed medical research are to block the internal processes that enable dangerous conditions to develop. Prevention only works to the extent that a person catches the situation before an internal weed (such as a cancerous tumor) has taken root and developed. If you wait until after a medical condition develops in order to make nutritional and other changes, it's not prevention anymore. At that point, you need reputable, conventional medical treatment.

Once the medical condition is present, I believe that it's best to seek out conventional, Western medical treatment. And only use other things as an adjunct to, not a replacement for, conventional medical treatments.
Due to peak oil and economic collapse, there will come a day when the current, high-tech, energy-intensive medical treatments will only be available to the super-rich. There will be a day when most of us have to depend on herbal remedies and prevention for our health. It’s wise to learn about such things while they’re still optional.
It’s also wise to get some measure of control over your food. And, for your own health, to get away from industrialized food as much as possible. Which leads me to gardening.
Get Proactive About Your Food Security With Personal Food Forests and Victory Gardens
Sojourners need to take note of how savvy Whites are creating food forests to ensure their families’ and neighborhoods’ survival. They’re also talking about hidden survival gardens. A group in Seattle is taking action on food forests. There’s going to be a lot of real hunger in the U.S. as time goes by. Most AAs will be “perpetually surprised” (as veteran Common Sense blogger Evia calls the behavior pattern) as they starve.
The majority of AAs will be perpetually surprised that there won’t be any additional government programs put in place to rescue them from starvation. They’ll also be surprised to see the dialysis centers (that are conveniently located in AA areas) and other medical care designed to treat ailments caused by lifestyle choices (such as obesity-related ailments) disappear. They will be perpetually surprised that the U.S. government prefers to spend what little money it has left on wars, and not on propping up the dysfunctional AA collective.
Meanwhile, the Sojourners and other sensible people will continue thriving.

Addendum

Here's a comment to the latest Archdruid Report post that gives an idea of how fragile the modern hi-tech medical system truly is:

Blogger  Bogatyr said...
I posted this a few days ago, but it doesn't seem to have gone through...

Kyrgyztan: Alternative medicine tries to fill healthcare gap

For all the discussion of resistance to antibiotics, the process of manufacturing and delivering medicines of all kinds is long and complex.

In Greece, pharmaceuticals are unavailable because pharmacies can't afford them. Here in the UK, we almost ran out a few years ago because they come into the country by air, and all shipments stopped when Eyjafjallajokull erupted.

Modern medicine apparently collapsed in Kyrgyzstan with the fall of the Soviet empire. Catabolic collapse in the West means the same may happen to us.
9/2/13, 11:27 AM

Ladies, carry on with optimizing your lives!

Stacking the Shelves (64)


Stacking the Shelves is a meme hosted by Tynga's Reviews where bloggers share what they got throughout the week!

For Review

Just one book for review this week, but I absolutely love the cover! This is the third book in the series and I've only read the second one, so hopefully I'll remember enough and enjoy this one!

From the library

Being back at school means I had to visit the local library and get some books! I got about 10 movies to keep me occupied between the mounds of homework and class time, and I picked up these three books as well! I've been wanting to read April Lindner's books for forever, so I was excited to see her book based on Wuthering Heights on the shelf. I still haven't read Sophie Kinsella's newest book, but now I have a copy! And Breakfast At Tiffany's is one of my favorite movies ever and I absolutely can't wait to read the book! 


And that's all for me! What did you all add to your shelves this week? 


Follow My Book Blog Friday (100)


This is a meme hosted every Friday by Parajunkee, where book bloggers answer a question each week and check out how others answered it. It's a cool way for bloggers and viewers to connect and learn more about each other!

Question: If you could have ONE - one book - for the rest of your life. Don't cheat...what would it be? 

Answer: Gah, only one book? How the heck am I supposed to choose one? That's like, living in a world where only one book existed...


But if I HAD to live in this hypothetical awful world, the one book I would like to exist would be...


Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen

I contemplated choosing one of my favorite YA or adult contemporary fiction books, but would I want to read those for the rest of my life? Will I always love YA books? Or will I eventual *gasp* outgrow them? I don't know! But I do know that Pride and Prejudice is a timeless novel with such an incredible romance that I know I could never get tired of the story. So that's my choice :)


Book Review: The Book Of Broken Hearts by Sarah Ockler

The Book of Broken Hearts
By Sarah Ockler
Release Date: May 21, 2013
Source: Library
Summary: When all signs point to heartbreak, can love still be a rule of the road? A poignant and romantic novel from the author ofBittersweet and Twenty Boy Summer.

Jude has learned a lot from her older sisters, but the most important thing is this: The Vargas brothers are notorious heartbreakers. She’s seen the tears and disasters that dating a Vargas boy can cause, and she swore an oath—with candles and a contract and everything—to never have anything to do with one.

Now Jude is the only sister still living at home, and she’s spending the summer helping her ailing father restore his vintage motorcycle—which means hiring a mechanic to help out. Is it Jude’s fault he happens to be cute? And surprisingly sweet? And a Vargas?

Jude tells herself it’s strictly bike business with Emilio. Her sisters will never find out, and Jude can spot those flirty little Vargas tricks a mile away—no way would she fall for them. But Jude’s defenses are crumbling, and if history is destined to repeat itself, she’s speeding toward some serious heartbreak…unless her sisters were wrong?

Jude may have taken an oath, but she’s beginning to think that when it comes to love, some promises might be worth breaking.


Review: I love love love Sarah Ockler's books. Bittersweet? One of my favorites. So when I saw she had a new release, I knew I had to get my hands on it asap. Who doesn't love a story about a girl falling in love with a notorious heartbreaker? 

If there's one thing Jude's learned from her older sisters, it's this: never ever date a Varags. Now that all of her sisters have grown up and moved away, Jude is left to live with her parents. So when her dad's early onset Alzheimer's starts to get worse, Jude decides to spend her summer before college taking care of him. And the only thing that her dad seems to clearly remember is his motorcycle, which hasn't worked in years. So Jude hire someone from the local mechanic to help fix the bike in hopes of fixing her dad. Little does Jude know that the mechanic turns out to be non other than a Vargas. But does every Vargas have to be a heartbreaker? I guess there's only one way to find out...

Gah, Sarah Ockler always finds a way to write a contemporary romance with some serious issues thrown into the mix. While it was fun to see Jude and Emilio bicker and turn on some serious chemistry, the whole deal with her father's alzheimer's is so sad and emotional. How can you expect an 18-year-old girl to watch her father fall to pieces? But I love how Jude uses her father's old bike as a way to try to put him back together. Of course, though, there's got to be a hunky mechanic to help her along the way. 

Oh Emilio. How perfect you are for Jude at this point in her life. Seriously, despite his reputation due to his Vargas name, Emilio can be so sweet with both Jude and her father. Even when moments can become extremely awkward, Emilio just takes life in stride and knows exactly how to act to make Jude tempted to break the promise she made to her sisters years and years ago. Who could resist someone as charming as that?

The only thing I wasn't a big fan of with this book was how quickly some of the romance moved. I think their relationship should have built more and the attraction shouldn't have been so sporadic and sudden as I read it. Other than that, though, the story was so emotional and I was definitely a fan of the romance. And Emilio and Jude had the bickering, stubborn kind of romance that I just love in contemporary romances. So if you're a fan of Sarah Ockler, definitely pick up her newest release. And if you haven't read anything by her yet, then what are you doing? Go out and find a copy of ANYTHING by her now! Because you're missing out on one seriously amazing author.



Ages & Stages: What Many Children Can Do - 5 Year Olds

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
 
Five-year-olds are cheerful, energetic, and enthusiastic. They enjoy planning, and spend a great deal of time discussing who will do what. They especially enjoy dramatic play, usually with other children. Five-year-olds are more sensitive to the needs and feelings of others around them. It is less difficult for them to wait for a turn or to share toys and material. "Best friends" become very important.

Many 5-year-olds will be going to kindergarten. Be sensitive to the needs of a 5-year-old returning from school. She may want to rest, play by herself, be free for a while from adult-directed activity, or catch up with the group happenings. Pace afternoon kindergarten children during the day with a balance of rest and activity. All-day kindergarten children need to be given every consideration when they return to your home as they may be tired, talkative, hungry, or wanting to share the day's happenings.
 
 

SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT
  • invents games with simple rules
  • organizes other children and toys for pretend play
  • still confuses fantasy with reality sometimes
  • often fears loud noises, the dark, animals, and some people
  • can take turns and share, but doesn't always want to
  • expresses anger and jealousy physically
  • likes to test muscular strength and motor skills, but is not emotionally ready for competition
  • carries on conversations with other children and adults
  • often excludes other children in play - best friends only
  • [may] use swear words or "bathroom words" to get attention
  • sometimes can be very bossy
  • likes to try new things and take risks
  • likes to make own decisions
  • notices when another child is angry or sad - more sensitive to feelings of others
  • prefers company of 1 or 2 children at a time; may become bossy or sulky when others join in
  • likes to feel grown up; boasts about self to younger, less capable children
  • begins to have a very basic understanding of right and wrong
  • plays contentedly and independently without constant supervision
  • takes turns and shares (sometimes)
  • understands and respects rules - often asks permission
  • understands and enjoys both giving and receiving
  • enjoys collecting things
  • sometimes needs to get away and be alone
  • can understand relationships among people and similarities and differences in other families
  • seeks adult approval
  • sometimes critical of other children and embarrassed by own mistakes
  • less fearful of the world than toddlers because understands the world better
  • has a good sense of humor, and enjoys sharing jokes and laughter with adults
PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT
  • weight: 31-57 pounds
  • height: 39-48 inches
  • requires approximately 1,700 calories daily
  • sleeps 10-11 hours at night
  • may begin to loose baby teeth
  • able to dress self with little assistance
  • learns to skip
  • throws ball overhead
  • catches bounced balls
  • rides a tricycle skillfully; may show interest in riding a bicycle with training wheels
  • balances on either foot for 5-10 seconds
  • uses a fork and knife well
  • cuts on a line with scissors
  • left or right hand dominance is established
  • walks down stairs, alternating feet without using a handrail
  • jumps over low objects
  • can run, gallop, and tumble
  • can skip and run on tiptoe
  • can jump rope
  • interested in performing tricks like standing on head, performing dance steps
  • capable of learning complex body coordination skills like swimming, ice or roller skating, and riding bicycles
  • may be able to tie shoelaces
  • may be able to copy simple designs and shapes
INTELLECTUAL DEVELOPMENT
  • understands about 13,000 words
  • uses 5-8 words in a sentence
  • likes to argue and reason; use words like "because"
  • knows basic colors like red, yellow, blue, green, orange
  • able to memorize address and phone number
  • understands that stories have a beginning, middle, and end
  • able to remember stories and repeat them
  • enjoys creating and telling stories
  • understands that books are read from left to right, top to bottom
  • draws pictures that represent animals, people, and objects
  • enjoys tracing or copying letters
  • can place objects in order from shortest to tallest
  • can understand and use comparative terms like big, bigger, or biggest
  • sorts objects by size
  • identifies some letters of the alphabet and a few numbers (if taught)
  • understands "more," "less," and "same"
  • counts up to 10 objects
  • recognizes categories ("These are all animals; these are all toys.")
  • understands before and after, above, and below
  • block and dramatic play is much more elaborate and complex
  • has good attention span and can concentrate well
  • is project minded - plans buildings, play scenarios, and drawings
  • interested in cause and effect
  • can understand time concepts like yesterday, today, and tomorrow
 
 
 
IDEAS FOR CAREGIVERS
· Encourage body coordination and sense of balance by playing "Follow the Leader" with skipping, galloping, and hopping.
· Teach sack-walking and "twist-em," or "freeze" games to provide an outlet for their drive for physical activity.
· Play games that can teach right and left directions
· Help children learn to use a pair of scissors by letting them cut out coupons.
· Provide a plastic needle, thread, and beads to encourage small muscle development.
· Provide carpentry, take-apart, and put-together experiences with junk clocks and old small appliances.
· Show children how to repair toys and books.
· Add drama to your reading sessions each day by using different voices for different characters. While reading a familiar story, stop before the end and ask children to add their own end to the story.
· Ask 5-year-olds to tell you a story. Write it down and post it on the wall or refrigerator.
· Ask "what if" questions. What if there were 5 little [ducks] instead of 3?
· Involve children in writing "thank-you" notes, cards, and letters. If a 5-year-old enjoys copying letters, let him dictate a short message to you and copy it from your writing. Old typewriters are favorite writing tools.
· Give 5-year-olds opportunities to sort, group, match, count, and sequence with real life situations such as setting the table, counting the number of turns, sorting out socks, and matching fabric swatches.
· Help children learn to make rules and play simple games by providing opportunities for them to play in small groups.
· Help children understand and cope with strong feelings by giving them words to use when they are angry. "I can see you are SAD about going home, ANGRY at your friend ...."
· Observe how a child plays with other children. Teach him to request, bargain, negotiate, and apologize.
· Take questions seriously. Talk to children about what happens and why. Give answers they can understand.
· Specific praise helps children understand the true value of their actions. Say "Stacking those toys on the shelf that way really helped – [jazakallaahu khayr]!" rather than "You did a good job!"
· Provide a comfortable place to be alone. A large cardboard box makes a wonderful hideaway.
· Take fears seriously. Reassure children that you will make sure that nothing bad will happen to them.
· Allow 5-year-olds some privacy in the toilet. Remind them to wash their hands until it becomes a habit.
· Be patient with the untidiness and clutter. Allow plenty of time to clean up. It helps to store and organize materials on low, open shelves so that they can be found and put away easily.
· Five-year-olds will show an increasing interest in numbers. Encourage them to count anything of interest - cups, leaves, drums, number of children absent, meters, etc.
 Reprinted with permission from National Network for Child Care - NNCC. Oesterreich, L. (1995). Ages & stages - five-year-olds. In L. Oesterreich, B. Holt, & S. Karas, Iowa family child care handbook [Pm 1541] (pp. 207-210). Ames, IA: Iowa State University Extension.